tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post4957412126335748153..comments2024-03-27T03:25:08.267-07:00Comments on Life in the Shoe: On SurvivingDorcashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-24504979265228390802008-08-30T13:57:00.000-07:002008-08-30T13:57:00.000-07:00As a 8 1/2 months pregnany Mama ready for #4, I sa...As a 8 1/2 months pregnany Mama ready for #4, I say, "Yes! Survival IS an accomplishment!" Love your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-7259861186162029292008-08-28T19:42:00.000-07:002008-08-28T19:42:00.000-07:00As someone who has dealt with chronic illness, I w...As someone who has dealt with chronic illness, I would say that yes, surviving definitely counts!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-3228344121605030582008-08-28T18:16:00.000-07:002008-08-28T18:16:00.000-07:00Emily has done more than survive in the last year,...Emily has done more than survive in the last year, she has become a gracious lady who i am happy not only to call my friend, but also to say i have learned from. She has definitely accomplished much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-63885987097111668122008-08-28T11:41:00.000-07:002008-08-28T11:41:00.000-07:00YES surviving is an accomplishment. In my own life...YES surviving is an accomplishment. In my own life it has been nothing but the Grace of God that has made surviving these last two years possible O and a little stubborn will power to=)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-73197453920230677002008-08-28T07:08:00.000-07:002008-08-28T07:08:00.000-07:00Lou and Ribbit--I added a bit of clarification. H...Lou and Ribbit--I added a bit of clarification. Hope it helps. You have a good point though, that once you're in it, there's no getting out of it. The inevitability of birth was overwhelming and almost terrifying for me the last few weeks of my pregnancies.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-45008854138892601972008-08-28T05:48:00.000-07:002008-08-28T05:48:00.000-07:00Thank you, lavenderlous for asking that question! ...Thank you, lavenderlous for asking that question! I was wondering too, but figured I must just be missing something!ribbit98https://www.blogger.com/profile/16474006551798461492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-57941068642921658532008-08-28T03:43:00.000-07:002008-08-28T03:43:00.000-07:00"And does it make a difference if you had a choice..."And does it make a difference if you had a choice, like giving birth?" Could you explain this further...I'm not sure what you mean. I'm thinking that all eight times that I gave birth I never felt more imprisoned! It was something I had to go through with. I couldn't back out of the process. I had no choice.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03130601332440845315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-827312077186509602008-08-27T20:31:00.000-07:002008-08-27T20:31:00.000-07:00This may or may not mean anything to you in your s...This may or may not mean anything to you in your situation, but just in case, here goes:<BR/> While my mom was battling cancer, a friend gave her a Streams In The Desert book. She was able to read through it several times before Jesus took her Home and your post reminded me of the August 16th devotional which she wrote "How true - how very true!" beside. The end of it goes like this:<BR/> Must life be considered a failure for someone compelled to stand still, forced into inaction and required to watch the great, roaring tides of life from shore? No - victory is then to be won by standing still and quietly waiting. Yet this is a thousand times harder to do than in the past, when you rushed headlong into the busyness of life. It requires much more courage to stand and wait and still not lose heart or lose hope, to submit to the will of God, to give up opportunities for work and leave honors to others, and to be quiet, confident, and rejoicing while the busy multitude goes happily along their way. The greatest life is: "after you have done everything, to stand" (Eph. 6:13). By J.R. Miller<BR/> Many blessings to you and yours.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-85148333246167599262008-08-27T15:15:00.000-07:002008-08-27T15:15:00.000-07:00I think survival can only be appreciated through t...I think survival can only be appreciated through the lens of time and wisdom and proximity to the Lord. Ten years ago when I was in a horrible marriage and severely depressed I actually hated myself all the more for not having "the guts" to end my life...the intervening years have brought even more struggles but I finally really turned my life over to Jesus and now, although arguably my life is even harder as a single mom of three, the depression meds are gone and I go to bed each night with a "Thank you for this day" on my lips that is sincere. Looking back I can understand so much better how all I've gone through was used by a loving God to teach me total dependence on him, sympathy for others, and strength to face even more if need be. My struggles have become my strongest witness to others. My struggles were accompanied by a long list of miracles that showed me how much God really loved ME.<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't change a thing now, even if I could. It's hard to explain.<BR/><BR/>I would highly recommend the novel "The Shack" for an in depth exploration of why God allows suffering in our lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-16889069234237013202008-08-27T13:12:00.000-07:002008-08-27T13:12:00.000-07:00I don't know if JUST surviving counts, but survivi...I don't know if JUST surviving counts, but surviving with a good attitude definetely counts. A friend of mine recently quoted in her blog:<BR/>"Though the fig tree does not bud<BR/>and there are no grapes on the vines,<BR/>though the olive crop fails<BR/>and the fields produce no food,<BR/>though there are no sheep in the pen<BR/>and no cattle in the stalls,<BR/>yet I will rejoice in the Lord,<BR/>I will be joyful in God my Savior.<BR/><BR/>The Sovereign Lord is my strength;<BR/>he makes my feet like the feet of a deer,<BR/>he enables me to go on the heights."<BR/><BR/>Habakkuk 3:17-19 NIV<BR/><BR/>When I went through my first miscarriage and the depression that followed, I read in Job, "Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him." (other translations have "trust" or "serve" or "love"). At what point do we quit believing God loves us? When our children die? When we go hungry? When disease ravages our bodies? Or do we hold to this belief that no matter what happens to us, God loves us?<BR/><BR/>I had to learn that even though I don't understand my pain or why I have to endure pain or loss, and even though God is silent when I ask "Why?", He IS still God and He IS still good. These are the hard areas of faith. <BR/><BR/>An old professor of mine used to say that there is no right answer to a wrong question. The question "Does just surviving count?" if by "surviving" you are talking about clinging to physical life, is not a good question. Did her Faith survive? That is a better question. <BR/><BR/>Did it? Then YES, it counts!!! It counts a lot. Because if you can go through struggles that you don't understand and still KNOW that God is Good, then you have won a HUGE battle.KaraBeaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519711290091911234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-37862458880779023442008-08-27T09:26:00.000-07:002008-08-27T09:26:00.000-07:00Of course survival means something. Surviving any...Of course survival means something. Surviving anything has it's lessons, therefore you gain something from it. Ask a cancer surviver if it means something. Your daughter should feel that she has accomplished much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-13485250401471198192008-08-27T07:25:00.000-07:002008-08-27T07:25:00.000-07:00Surviving is an accomplishment simply by choosing ...Surviving is an accomplishment simply by choosing to stay in a difficult situation, (vs. what? suicide?)but surviving difficulty with a soft, more sympathetic heart toward ourselves and others is an incredible accomplishment. <BR/>I've been encouraged recently by the realization that Jesus did not especially find joy or beauty in the moment of the cross, but "despised the shame" and "for the joy set before Him" endured.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-71024086930600663612008-08-27T07:09:00.000-07:002008-08-27T07:09:00.000-07:00Does surviving mean simply existing--you are still...Does surviving mean simply existing--you are still breathing? Or does surviving mean, going on with life in spite of obstacles--in Emily's case--illness? I think Emily is a survivor who has chosen to go on with life in spite of the obstacles thrown at her. Hats off to her!!Dorcas Bylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11867219027458555836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-5638680128603965482008-08-27T05:40:00.000-07:002008-08-27T05:40:00.000-07:00Absolutely! My comments won't sound as deep as th...Absolutely! My comments won't sound as deep as the one before but to endure any hard situation is to survive. And coming through it with a good attitude is an accomplishment as well.<BR/>Dorcas, I just discovered your blog and am reading all the past ones. It's taking me awhile but I am enjoying your fresh yet Mennonite look at different situations. ie- altar calls, living in Lancaster Co. etc. What a howl! I've been quoting you to my family and they roll their eyes.Sandy Eberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11813873837550429274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-86939195402064975962008-08-27T05:27:00.000-07:002008-08-27T05:27:00.000-07:00This question has all sorts of existential themes....This question has all sorts of existential themes. I think especially of the existentialist Viktor Frankl who was a psychiatrist and Holocaust prisoner. He concluded that "even in the most absurd, painful and dehumanized situation, life has potential meaning and that therefore even suffering is meaningful." "To maintain his own feeling of being worthy of his sufferings in the dismal conditions, he would frequently march outside and deliver a lecture to an imaginary audience about "Psychotherapeutic Experiences in a Concentration Camp", believing that by fully experiencing the suffering objectively, he would thereby end it." (Wikipedia) <BR/> I think Frankl understood at least part of the truth--that it is possible to find meaning in suffering. But I don't think he understood what a precious offering to God it is when saints suffer. That's what seems to me to imbue suffering with meaning. <BR/> Albert Camus, another existentialist, said there is only one philosophical problem--the problem of suicide (often the result of concluding that life is meaningless). Suicide is the unthinkable alternative to surviving. <BR/> In that sense, every day that a person chooses to do the next right thing, to choose life, even when life is very hard, is an accomplishment that God notices.Mrs. Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05660178013279134792noreply@blogger.com