tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post7723161818185257205..comments2024-03-27T03:25:08.267-07:00Comments on Life in the Shoe: Questions on my MindDorcashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-23593213996687013182007-09-11T01:38:00.000-07:002007-09-11T01:38:00.000-07:00Scene 1 - Ask God if there is something He wants ...Scene 1 - Ask God if there is something He wants you to see here and be open if He shows you something. But don't go rooting around so much that you actually create new wounds.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Scene 2 - I'd say some sort of combination of<BR/><BR/>--teach her to play their game,<BR/><BR/>Snappy, confident, humorous comebacks are almost always helpful, especially in dealing with older brothers.<BR/><BR/><BR/>--tell her to stay out of their way?<BR/><BR/>Boys do need "boy time" They shouldn't be required to have her around all the time.<BR/><BR/><BR/>--tell them they have to have her around?<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, she IS their sister who looks up to them and they need to learn to include her on occassion.<BR/><BR/><BR/>--let them fight it out?<BR/><BR/>Not fight, but work it out.<BR/><BR/>It's important for kids to learn to solve their own difficulties. They need the practice.<BR/><BR/>They need you to allow them to work out their difficulties on their own so that they know that you have confidence in them that they can come to a workable solution. (ok so sometimes you have to streach yorself to get them to learn what they need to learn!) <BR/><BR/>Not only does allowing them to come to their own solution (with-in your boundaries)teach them valuable life skills. it's way easier than playing referee.<BR/><BR/>--find some sort of compromise about time together?<BR/><BR/>Set the boundary that they will have SOME, not all time together and allow the three of them to negotiate a solution. You have amazingly creative children who I expect are more than capable of solving this on their own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-37986301305202959172007-09-05T07:07:00.000-07:002007-09-05T07:07:00.000-07:00My (unbiblical) answers to the questions are prove...My (unbiblical) answers to the questions are proverbs from my mother:<BR/>Scene 1 on navel-gazing--"If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it."<BR/>Scene 2--"What's good for the goose is good for the gander."Scribblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12446145686803915738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-3207242749499397632007-09-05T06:46:00.000-07:002007-09-05T06:46:00.000-07:00If Jenny could say, somewhat straight but with a t...If Jenny could say, somewhat straight but with a tiny bit of challenge, "Well, I'm sorry you will miss out on my sunny personality!", maybe they will hear the challenge and feel the teeniest bit guilty (I wouldn't expect a turnaround from the guys)?<BR/><BR/>Or is that beyond corny or too subtle for anyone?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-88042360958328497452007-09-05T04:44:00.000-07:002007-09-05T04:44:00.000-07:00And here I thought navel-gazing had something to d...And here I thought navel-gazing had something to do with a short person, trying to have a conversation with a tall person!<BR/>ConnieConstancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15748558090320737035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-79429797789107405872007-09-04T22:40:00.000-07:002007-09-04T22:40:00.000-07:00Qwertle: from Wikipedia: "Omphaloskepsis is the co...Qwertle: from Wikipedia: "Omphaloskepsis is the contemplation of one's navel as an aid to meditation. It is well known in the usually jocular phrase directed towards self-absorbed pursuits: "contemplating one's navel" or "navel-gazers".. . .The word has several other forms, such as omphaloskeptic, for someone that engages in navel-gazing, and omphaloskeptical, meaning to be in a self-absorbed state."Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-60882673346027220252007-09-04T21:58:00.000-07:002007-09-04T21:58:00.000-07:00hmm. question on my mind... "navel-gazing"??? qotd...hmm. question on my mind... "navel-gazing"??? <BR/><BR/>qotd=hilariousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-34809910804170875542007-09-04T14:13:00.000-07:002007-09-04T14:13:00.000-07:00PC--No, I'm not mad at you and the point is well t...PC--No, I'm not mad at you and the point is well taken. I added an edit to my post to clarify things a bit. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-21788378897847795012007-09-04T13:00:00.000-07:002007-09-04T13:00:00.000-07:00Just a quick thought on Scene I--Don't bury the ga...Just a quick thought on Scene I--Don't bury the garbage in your soul that exists--it will come back to haunt you. But don't try to manufacture or dig for garbage that isn't there. The world has enough real pain to go around without trying to drum up problems that don't exist. God will show us where we are falling short if we are open to being taught by His Spirit.Dorcas Bylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11867219027458555836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-42124228973469364272007-09-04T07:32:00.000-07:002007-09-04T07:32:00.000-07:00Not to beat you up, (you asked an honest question)...Not to beat you up, (you asked an honest question). But really, how does our biblical stance on nonresistance come into play here? Should Jenny not rather be encouraged to find creative ways to "return good for evil"? How do we "provoke our chilren to love and good works"? Dear knows our family has had to struggle with the same thing, but I am now older, and, hopefully, wiser. Pease take it from one who's been there. Turning the other cheek is a better, more obedient-to-Jesus option. Please tell me you're not mad at me for saying this! (I truly don't feel self-righteous.) -PC in VAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-66979574239954232092007-09-04T07:00:00.000-07:002007-09-04T07:00:00.000-07:00Just the fact that they call her "Puff" and "Powde...Just the fact that they call her "Puff" and "Powderpuff" makes me think they really do love her.<BR/>--JuliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-76175414412529559972007-09-03T16:01:00.000-07:002007-09-03T16:01:00.000-07:00Scene # 2: When you get it figured out, let me kn...Scene # 2: When you get it figured out, let me know! Thanks! PaulineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com