tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post3064563589990055044..comments2024-03-27T03:25:08.267-07:00Comments on Life in the Shoe: Ask Aunt Dorcas: The Teasing Boyfriend and the Mother's FearsDorcashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-46040114083161273232021-01-19T12:32:25.819-08:002021-01-19T12:32:25.819-08:00Hello,
Today is my first time reading, visiting fr...Hello,<br />Today is my first time reading, visiting from Mama's Minutia. As one on the teasing side, I took this lesson to heart. I hear this lesson in other contexts, but this forced me to see how it applies to me -- a little humbling. Tender spots are for treating gently, not for poking. Turning 40 may seem like a reason to celebrate to me, but if my husband isn't feeling that way, it's not my place to say how he "should" feel, or try to tease him into feeling the "right" way.<br />-MarieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-6886854285028340162020-12-01T11:57:03.527-08:002020-12-01T11:57:03.527-08:00Thank you for sharing. Your experience sounds diff...Thank you for sharing. Your experience sounds difficult. May your voice be heard.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-8258319357228635922020-12-01T11:56:02.801-08:002020-12-01T11:56:02.801-08:00Thank you. Not that readers have to agree with me,...Thank you. Not that readers have to agree with me, but it's nice when they do.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-67425851456525197852020-12-01T05:55:03.510-08:002020-12-01T05:55:03.510-08:00I would say to Hannah, "If it bothers you now...I would say to Hannah, "If it bothers you now, it will bother you more when you are married. If he does not listen to you now, it is unlikely to change if you are married." I would recommend finding someone who makes her feel more confident instead of less so, and who builds her up instead of tearing her down. I speak from experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-25180129427158800792020-11-24T08:09:27.162-08:002020-11-24T08:09:27.162-08:00A HEARTY AMEN to both of your answers! I felt a pa...A HEARTY AMEN to both of your answers! I felt a passion burning within me to reply to both questions. And then you answered them with words so well put and that agreed with what I was thinking. High five! Jason and Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04746145452144474256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-61368306001365756842020-11-23T20:05:38.186-08:002020-11-23T20:05:38.186-08:00Yes.Yes.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-80424815836180957882020-11-23T20:05:14.639-08:002020-11-23T20:05:14.639-08:00I wish you much courage and joy.I wish you much courage and joy.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-11854916327746129632020-11-23T19:41:16.894-08:002020-11-23T19:41:16.894-08:00"I know my children can face whatever may com..."I know my children can face whatever may come in life with the power and grace of God. "<br />Yes!<br />All the best to you and your family.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-75602417582010063122020-11-23T19:39:46.811-08:002020-11-23T19:39:46.811-08:00Thanks, Tina1
Thanks, Tina1<br />Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-90218484363440189822020-11-23T19:39:18.011-08:002020-11-23T19:39:18.011-08:00Very well said!Very well said!Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-51419909834149822562020-11-23T06:26:22.344-08:002020-11-23T06:26:22.344-08:00Back to the first question. It seems to me that th...Back to the first question. It seems to me that there is a “second mile” to the Golden Rule. The first and obvious layer is to not say or do anything to anyone that I would not like to have done to me. The next layer is to think about what I do or say, and not do it if I know it makes the other person feel worthless, put-down, hurt, or mocked.<br /><br />We are not carbon copies of each other. It can be essentially selfish to brush away another’s responses and feelings by reasoning: I wouldn’t care if someone did that to me, and then concluding it’s her (or his) problem if it bothers her (or him). –LRM<br />LRMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06308419680931353937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-8023418699830732922020-11-22T14:14:36.661-08:002020-11-22T14:14:36.661-08:00I love this Aunt Dorcas feature so much! Thank you...I love this Aunt Dorcas feature so much! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and advice here. I really appreciate what you had to say to young moms about the fears that come with bringing innocent, vulnerable souls into the world. I too am in that stage and have felt that choking fear when I look into their precious faces. I really like the thought that our babies can symbolize hope and bold action in an unpredictable world. I'm still scared and pained sometimes. Not just at what can happen to our world at large, but all the things that happen to each of us personally. Loss, hurt, and so many other things that find each one of us eventually. I believe the best thing I can give my children is a love for Jesus. He will never change and we can face anything with Jesus by our side. Of course I can't make that choice for my children, but I can live it out and pray my children grow up to believe in Jesus too. I can get all wadded up about giving my children the best nutrition, the best opportunities, the best memories and on and on. These are all fine and good but there's only one thing we truly can't or shouldn't live without and that's God. I know my children can face whatever may come in life with the power and grace of God. I have so far to come in modeling that, but I hope and pray I can do better every day. I really don't want to mother from a place of fear. Thanks for your encouragement. Amynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-2428281617983649852020-11-22T13:29:54.143-08:002020-11-22T13:29:54.143-08:00This is just really, really good, Aunt Dorcas! Tha...This is just really, really good, Aunt Dorcas! Thank you so much for pointing to Truth in how to live and also being brave to 'tell it like it is'. :) Tinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-73852101044355616222020-11-22T13:17:11.416-08:002020-11-22T13:17:11.416-08:00"Your babies are defiant hope in the face of ..."Your babies are defiant hope in the face of the world’s darkness and despair." Your statement was a bright ray of joy and surge of strength for this young mama, who could have posted the exact question that "Katie" did. I will print this out and hang it on my fridge!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-41913474654658581452020-11-22T11:32:52.787-08:002020-11-22T11:32:52.787-08:00I have got 3 little children and sometimes I am af...I have got 3 little children and sometimes I am afraid of the future, too. I like your thoughts on this subject. I think that we should lift our children up to Jesus in prayer. He will provide.Hennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-48827529889721251662020-11-21T17:27:46.980-08:002020-11-21T17:27:46.980-08:00Never thought of this but I think she was right.Never thought of this but I think she was right.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-37976945553540838132020-11-21T17:27:16.793-08:002020-11-21T17:27:16.793-08:00Thank you, Lisa. I find I enjoy this format very m...Thank you, Lisa. I find I enjoy this format very much. <br />Interesting perspective on religious beliefs and how they come across. I like your point that non-Christians can tell who's genuine and who isn't.<br />I think if you keep traditional beliefs about morality, language, dress, and manners, and the society around you rejects them, it feels hostile even if it might not be.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-16145914524818202292020-11-21T17:14:17.519-08:002020-11-21T17:14:17.519-08:00Yes. Very true.Yes. Very true.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-32127716212013956862020-11-21T17:14:03.543-08:002020-11-21T17:14:03.543-08:00Thank you. You're very kind.Thank you. You're very kind.Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-77073736074386263492020-11-21T10:18:22.388-08:002020-11-21T10:18:22.388-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Christine in Mainehttps://revivingrain.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-9246336633874640302020-11-21T09:40:05.380-08:002020-11-21T09:40:05.380-08:00My late Mother-in-law told me that God made it so ...My late Mother-in-law told me that God made it so easy to get pregnant because otherwise we would always have a reason not to have babies. She was so right.Lanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09380649410508372279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-41529423183880475362020-11-21T09:12:43.983-08:002020-11-21T09:12:43.983-08:00You rise to these advice-giving essays like a leap...You rise to these advice-giving essays like a leaping orca. Your writing is beautiful, your logic sound, and your exhortations are always full of understanding and hope. You shine here, Dorcas!<br />But I just want to clarify one thing, as one of your faithful non-Christian readers. I don't believe there is a "growing hostility toward [your] beliefs." We of the non-Christian world are hostile toward Christians who CALL themselves Christians and then act abominably in the name of their religion. You are not that. And there are plenty of Christians in the world who are not that. Give us credit for understanding the difference between real faith and using faith as a smoke screen, just as we understand that not all Muslims are terrorists. Unfortunately, over the millennia, many truly evil human beings have couched their greed, power hunger and blood lust in religion. We ALL need to recognize and reject those monsters.Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-50053261278702455252020-11-21T08:12:32.445-08:002020-11-21T08:12:32.445-08:00Something I once heard and I think of alot when th...Something I once heard and I think of alot when the subject of "how will our children be able to live Godly lives in this wicked world" comes up is this - God gives grace for the times we live in. That's true today and will be true as long as the world standsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-42240015081608341442020-11-21T04:40:41.494-08:002020-11-21T04:40:41.494-08:00Aunt Dorcas, you are a gem. Aunt Dorcas, you are a gem. Danielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03652404223836285856noreply@blogger.com