tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post3578487134874590347..comments2024-03-27T03:25:08.267-07:00Comments on Life in the Shoe: Thoughts About MarriageDorcashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-66802116888513545802017-05-01T13:34:07.504-07:002017-05-01T13:34:07.504-07:00As part of the Boundless crowd, this made me smile...As part of the Boundless crowd, this made me smile! Tonight my dad and I were pondering about a younger friend who is beautiful, smart and godly - and still an "unclaimed treasure" to quote from *Sarah, Plain and Tall.* I think it's part of worldwide trend, this marriagelessness. I'm thirty-cough-something, and I'm personally not averse to matchmaking, when it's done sensitively, by someone who knows me. I've also pondered the idea of praying that God would give the gift of matchmaking. <br /><br />Speaking to what you said about mamas -- I do think it can be quite painful and bewildering for parents to know how to support their children who are single much longer than expected. So my heart goes out to you. But, my parents have learned to laugh and cry with me...and to do lots of praying in private, and a little while I am around.<br /><br />And you know, there is a lot of joy in this bewildering spot. Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02924646775541536761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-40980498121982978672013-04-27T13:39:04.445-07:002013-04-27T13:39:04.445-07:00Thanks for your thoughts. Somehow I feel kind of ...Thanks for your thoughts. Somehow I feel kind of sad when I hear a friend's 17 year old is getting married. I wonder over how small their world seems to be. Yet, I am also concerned over another friends 25 year old well educated daughter and her lack of a companion (even though she doesn't have the same concern!). I wonder if conservative men are scared of how smart she is. Somehow it all works out in the end either way when they are seaking God's will.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01320233717690826229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-28099235879597282442013-04-17T08:13:53.372-07:002013-04-17T08:13:53.372-07:00 Why is it, we always want to fix things and not ... Why is it, we always want to fix things and not just trust. I have a daughter who is thirty and seems content. But I am the anxious one. Why,I do not know. But slowly I am learning to trust our loving God.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-45617536400576993532013-04-11T06:50:59.794-07:002013-04-11T06:50:59.794-07:00I agree so much with the part where you said we Ch...I agree so much with the part where you said we Christians want our kids to stay chaste but wait til they are established in a career. This seems contrary to both Scripture and human nature to me!! Go Whoopie-pie Moms!Cara Daileynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-23286197938952518892013-04-10T10:36:23.092-07:002013-04-10T10:36:23.092-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anwar Fazilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04342640946805733049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-37761419207398080202013-04-10T08:38:04.127-07:002013-04-10T08:38:04.127-07:00Oh, and by the way, they're moving to Ohio as ...Oh, and by the way, they're moving to Ohio as soon as they get married.RMNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-48272060510926665162013-04-10T08:33:53.178-07:002013-04-10T08:33:53.178-07:00I was touched by your ending comments that if your...I was touched by your ending comments that if your children are content, you are, but if they're struggling, it's hard for you not to. It means a lot to me that you notice there's a problem instead of trying to ignore it because it is complicated.<br /><br />On the how of matchmaking, one of the more fascinating stories I heard was this: a spiritual dad wanted his "daughter" to stay in the area, and discovered what it took was a man. Apparently on finding out who was considered elgible, he took him aside and said, "Get to know Sarah!!" and left it at that. They are getting married this month. I like this story because a)she wasn't criticized for her desire b) direction was given but in very uncontrolling way. It would have been perfectly fine if it hadn't worked.RMNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-73090976680376093782013-04-10T06:18:06.725-07:002013-04-10T06:18:06.725-07:00This post is so in line with what I've thought...This post is so in line with what I've thought about frequently. So much is written for/about singles, but nothing about the moms who keep hoping/praying! Although your brainstorm sounds neat, most of our adult children wouldn't take too kindly to it, would they? So, sit back and relax, one of these days, you'll be telling your friends all the details of how they each met Mr./Ms. Right!Sharon Mastnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-58694147743431674302013-04-09T22:06:25.387-07:002013-04-09T22:06:25.387-07:00Shawn--laughed out loud at you also.
The Mockingby...Shawn--laughed out loud at you also.<br />The Mockingbyrd--interesting stuff, not?Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-63446876118440457052013-04-09T22:04:29.966-07:002013-04-09T22:04:29.966-07:00Thanks, all, for the comments.
everydaymoments: yo...Thanks, all, for the comments.<br />everydaymoments: you could try it but it might be kind of like Lady Katherine de Bourgh in Pride and Prejudice, making a "peculiar arrangement" "from their infancy" that Mr. Darcy and her daughter should marry.<br />Crystal, I laughed at the play-dough line. <br />Kathryn and Susan, I'm delighted tohave you connect on my blog!Dorcashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050605764466835485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-31640303800051459702013-04-09T04:07:34.825-07:002013-04-09T04:07:34.825-07:00Susan,my apologies, it's kandid.konversations-...Susan,my apologies, it's kandid.konversations-forgot to put that little .between the two words:(Kathryn Martinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-20501052976013885982013-04-09T03:47:32.534-07:002013-04-09T03:47:32.534-07:00Sorry,Dorcas, I just HAVE to respond to my cuz'...Sorry,Dorcas, I just HAVE to respond to my cuz'thanks for letting me use your blog to finally get in touch!Susan, you can contact me via e-mail.It's kandid konversations@yahoo.com.I can't wait to hear from you!Kathryn Martinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-13422036892995933462013-04-09T03:20:57.533-07:002013-04-09T03:20:57.533-07:00@The imPerfect Housewife: Marvy fab. Far out. :-)@The imPerfect Housewife: Marvy fab. Far out. :-)The Baritonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-54269894319863981432013-04-08T19:22:25.569-07:002013-04-08T19:22:25.569-07:00Marriage Theory--if you'll pardon the term--ha...Marriage Theory--if you'll pardon the term--has always fascinated me. When I was seventeen, I thought it'd be so interesting to secretly arrange with a suitable young lady of my acquaintance that if neither one of us was married by, say, thirty, we should just marry each other. Naturally, all the ways that such a scheme could go wrong dissuaded me (and after all, it's plenty hard to ask a girl to the Christmas banquet when you're seventeen, much less to be a bachelorhood contingency plan) but I've never gotten over being interested in how people get married, and how people I've encountered from various cultures ended up in a pretty similar proportion of happy and unhappy marriages by vastly different means. <br /><br />It's like baby names--it'd be so much fun to mess with, if there weren't so much riding on it. Hanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920217654172575530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-37325243483424944952013-04-08T18:51:23.794-07:002013-04-08T18:51:23.794-07:00Hmm Whoopie Pies...very good analogy. We could act...Hmm Whoopie Pies...very good analogy. We could actually maybe have like Tupp*rware parties w/ pictures and things...<br /><br />So ask your daughter if "cool" is out these days too? All these phrases come back again anyway.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16103378389155773502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-78329218362742553262013-04-08T13:58:44.536-07:002013-04-08T13:58:44.536-07:00Oh, P.S. Tell Emily "peeps" and "ch...Oh, P.S. Tell Emily "peeps" and "chill" are so cool, but it's presh that she thinks they're not. That's totes adorbs. :) (Sorry I deleted the last comment - I called her Jenny).The imPerfect Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09155280178284448740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-77387946396975899512013-04-08T13:57:14.251-07:002013-04-08T13:57:14.251-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.The imPerfect Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09155280178284448740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-66883860779801764882013-04-08T13:54:45.015-07:002013-04-08T13:54:45.015-07:00I. LOVE. THIS!!! I haven't blogged in month...I. LOVE. THIS!!! I haven't blogged in months and months and just finally did a post because my daughter got engaged. The first marriage around here in forever. The Whoopie Pie thing - I'm all for it, or better yet, we could do regional "Whoopie Pie Clubs" because I'm in the Midwest. Someone recently asked my daughter, "So where do you live?" and she said, "At home," and they said, "Who else is there?" and her answer was, "Everybody". Mine don't seem all to rushed either and I think the same thing about dating and courtship, there is no "one size fits all" that's for sure. Thanks for giving me a chuckle.The imPerfect Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09155280178284448740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-84775912320895754452013-04-08T12:46:37.730-07:002013-04-08T12:46:37.730-07:00I find myself in much the same place (with the exc...I find myself in much the same place (with the exception that one of mine is married). My children however don't seem to want any 'help' in choosing, so I pray a lot, and imagine possibilities--which, by the way, don't usually materialize. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-30791718941995070162013-04-08T12:46:19.253-07:002013-04-08T12:46:19.253-07:00Please don't let my mom hear about your "...Please don't let my mom hear about your "Whoopie Pie Matchmaking" experiment idea. She would be ALL FOR THAT, and I'd get matched up with the first veil-wearing non-relative that she finds. Wait, she's already trying to do that. Shawn Graberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06442043972170630969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-82475554012885829342013-04-08T12:35:50.452-07:002013-04-08T12:35:50.452-07:00So many places to go with this blog that I can'...So many places to go with this blog that I can't quite sort it all out, without perhaps writing a blog of my own! :) Just know I chuckled (right out loud to myself) more than once reading thru that as well as the comments. And then I got distracted. Kathryn Martin??... (first comment) as in my cousin who I've often wished would have some computer/internet contact with (cause I'm horrible with letters & phone calls)... If you read this Kath, we need to connect somehow & catch up with each other!! Facebook, email, or do you have a blog? K, I'm done. Back to letting people read some more interesting comments about the blog. :)Susan Millernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-78894759825189142252013-04-08T12:06:40.867-07:002013-04-08T12:06:40.867-07:00This one makes me laugh, Dorcas; perhaps because I...This one makes me laugh, Dorcas; perhaps because I can identify! We have six children. Of that number one is married and one is 15. The remaining four have literally been all over the globe and are "unattached". When their father and I were their ages we were dating, were newly weds, had just moved north to begin our "life work", and had just had our fourth child!! Of course I'm thinking, "Heavens, we were only children!" But yes... very different from their experience so far!kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16013964661603412887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-11999446560799375152013-04-08T10:23:51.267-07:002013-04-08T10:23:51.267-07:00Dorcas, Sure go ahead, get together and bake whoop...Dorcas, Sure go ahead, get together and bake whoopie pies! But the reality is that there are not enough men for the women in our churches. I know that marriage is good. But is it okay if some of your children don't marry? I recently wrote a booklet, Devoted, which is my attempt to write a simplified theology of singleness. The Bible has as much to say about singleness as it does about marriage!Dorcas Laymannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-20705475666918109422013-04-08T09:01:04.220-07:002013-04-08T09:01:04.220-07:00One of your funniest yet. My parents started prayi...One of your funniest yet. My parents started praying for our future mates (a la Stormie O'Martian and "Power of a Praying Parent") at birth (or what seems like it). The first 3 are married off, with my oldest brother even marrying the exact one my parents chose for him from childhood. <br /><br />I didn't marry my "match" because I had known him from infancy, and let's face it, when you've seen someone eat play-dough, it's hard to get excited about him later in life. But I got someone even better eventually. :-)crystalkupperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659420169932283744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11022879.post-25390304125528896222013-04-08T08:46:40.919-07:002013-04-08T08:46:40.919-07:00so many great lines!
this is awesome sauce..
my ...so many great lines! <br />this is awesome sauce.. <br />my fav: "and it portrayed a certain flair and independence if you weren't all into getting married and sort of slid into it later, yawning just a bit, like, well ok, but I could be happy single, just so you know."Jennyhttp://www.baileyandme2.comnoreply@blogger.com