This evening we had a picnic supper on the riverbank in Brownsville, celebrating Paul's mom's 75th birthday tomorrow. As it got dark we sat around a campfire and sang and talked.
On the way home I remarked about all the mushy young couples in the family. I mean, Jessi sat on Kevin's lap, Amy* sat on Byran's lap, Keith and JoNell were all cozy in the darkness, and Randy and Shelley had their fingers crocheted together most of the evening, which in my mind qualifies as mushy but Jenny and Emily thought you had to be sitting on laps to qualify. Anyway.
When you are going to be married 24 years come Sunday, it is kind of an unsettling experience to be around mushy young couples. You think, Oh yeah, there is my husband beside me, and he has fingers just like he used to, and so do I, and why doesn't it cross our minds to lace our fingers together while we sit here?
I think if I were one of these young couples, it would make me sad to see a stodgy old couple like us sitting there. Like, GAAAAAKKKK, there is our future before us in all its glory.
Well if it's any comfort to you young things, one learns to be knit together in mind and heart in many ways by the time you've been together 24 years, even if you forget to intertwine fingers.
But maybe we should try it again, just to see if we still know how. It might do us good.
*That would be the other Amy Smucker, Byran's wife, and not our daughter.
Quote of the Day:
"You know she was getting over it when she started worrying about who saw her."
--Paul's sister Lois, after her daughter Lisa nearly toppled a combine into the creek. We can chuckle about it now but it was too close for comfort and I think Lisa had some angelic help in keeping the combine upright after 3 wheels were over the bank. Yikes.
One of my favorite things about "7th Heaven" is that the stody old parents still flirt with each other.
ReplyDeleteYeah, it would definitely do you good to intertwine fingers, hold hands, even kiss... And it will do your kids good to see it too. As much ss they will blush and say to you "Get a room!", there is comfort and security in seeing your parents be tender with each other...
i agree karabeagle. We just celebrated our 20th anniversary. i think couples need to work at remembering to keep connecting intimately with one another, especially when one has 6 kids (like i do also). It takes extra effort now to remember to give each other those special glances, loving touches, hugs and kisses, notes of endearment, fingers locked together or arms around one another, etc... but it is so important to keep on connecting with one another daily. It does make our kids feel more secure when they see their parents sharing moments of warmth and love. It also teaches our children how to love their spouses one day. Just some thoughts. But, truly it takes work, especially after 6 kids and 20 plus years!!! Hang in there Dorcas. cathy
ReplyDeleteDorcas I have to say that my husband and i still link fingers but sitting on laps and all that other stuff is not for us. I think it would look odd to see a 50 year old woman sitting on her husbands lap. It just doesnt seem right to do in public. I really dont think its all that comely for the young marrieds either.
ReplyDeleteI love the way you say this: " one learns to be knit together in mind and heart in many ways by the time you've been together 24 years, even if you forget to intertwine fingers." This is very true.
ReplyDeleteOur kids have a habit whenever we might steal a little smooch or hug to come running from wherever they are, loudly proclaiming "family hug!!!!". While it might interfere a bit in our marital moment, I know I will cherish this long after they may instead avert their eyes with a teenagerish "ewwwww!"