Instead of the normal New Years resolutions, I thought I would see if I could distill my goals and also things I want or ought to do into simple verbs.
Because simplifying is good.
I thought, oh, maybe five of them would summarize what I would like to do this year in all the major areas of life like friends and travel and writing.
And that wasn't nearly all, which goes to show that you should never tell a scattered but obsessive person to plan ahead and make a comprehensive list, because they [we] will be so paralyzed by fear that we might forget one sub-category that we will spend two days making a list and the rest of the week finding the right printable paper on Pinterest, with just the right borders and lines--oh, and it has to be numbered--on which to write each of these as a title, followed by every possible particular in the numbered list, because what if we forget something??
1. bathrobe for Matt
2. put pockets in skirts
3. quilt for Ben
4. quilt for Steven
FlyLady on her insightful website addresses this very thing. Just find a piece of paper already, she says, and make a list. Don't take time to find the perfect paper and pen. Don't make the perfect list.
Just write down the reasonable basics, she says, like it is possible to do this without obsessing. It's ok if you forget something, she says. Progress not perfection.
Yes, well. FlyLady has never yet called me up to see how well I listen. I can follow her in the minors like wearing shoes all day and shining my sink. But to make a list on any old piece of paper?? No no. And surely with all those pretty, detailed lists I will actually get it all done...Mrs. Smucker hopes fervently while exaggerating only slightly.
I am happy that in one area, at least, I have what it takes to un-complicate my life.