Remember the old woman who lived in a shoe? I don't judge her nearly as harshly as I used to, now that I have a husband and six children. In our 100-year-old farmhouse, we have broth, bread, and lots of Smucker personalities, and this blog is about our lives.
Thursday, March 20, 2014
Retaining Honour: Post 1
We are confused about gender.“We” meaning society in general, the church
far too often, and me in particular, at times.
Today, someone posted a picture of one of the Duck Dynasty
guys supposedly saying, “Listen up ladies, if your man doesn’t know how to hunt and fish,
you have a girlfriend.”
Is that really what it means to be a man?Maybe it’s no wonder people wonder if they
were born with the “right” gender.
Meanwhile, news feeds and radio programs offer updates on
the latest contrived ways to make women realize their potential.
I heard an NPR program the other day in which they
interviewed a woman who devised programs to get girls into STEM [Science,
Technology, Engineering, Math] classes.She sounded quite ambitious on behalf of females, but in glaring
dissonance, she spoke in that terrible irritating “uptalk” so prevalent among
young women, where almost every phrase sounds all uncertain, like a question
requiring affirmation before she can continue.“And I worked with a professor? Who
was almost entirely lecture based??And
I was like, developing more hands-on technical material???”
“How can we encourage our daughters to try STEM fields?”
said the interviewer.
“The important thing?Is to teach them?Not to be
afraid of failure??” replied this shining example of confident intelligent
Sheryl Sandberg says women should lean in, and girls should
be bossy but we shouldn’t use that word.
A young man from a conservative Mennonite church in the
Midwest told me how much he likes to hunt, thereby qualifying as masculine by
the Duck Dynasty standard.And,
interestingly, by his church’s gauge as well.“Do girls in your church go hunting?” I asked him.He said, “No, we actually have a rule that
I thought but did not say: A—Nothing would make me want to
go hunting like knowing there’s a rule against it.And B—I hope you also have a rule that men
I don’t have a lot of answers but writing things down helps
me to figure out what I think.So I plan
to write a series of short blog posts cogitating on various aspects of what
gender in general and femaleness in particular mean.
I was intrigued with this format when a Facebook friend
named Bethany Eicher used a series of short posts to explore the subject of
submission in marriage. [ http://bethany-aboutmyfathersbusiness.blogspot.com/] Unlike her, I am not brave
enough to discuss submission at this point.In fact,
I am not into controversy and will shut things down if too much controversy
Also, I am not an expert and there are plenty of issues I will not cover. This will be just me talking so take it as such.
Tomorrow: design, creation, and sources for